Our minds try to control the impossible. We love to try to control circumstances, such as other people, the weather, illness, and death. I’m not saying that you should not try to prevent illness and death. Of course, we should deal with illness and death in the best way possible. I’m not saying we shouldn’t take an umbrella if clouds are looking ominous. It is good to be proactive.
What I am saying is, notice how often your brain resists (reacts to) things that have already occurred. It’s the things that we don’t like, that should not have happened. We all do it.
Let’s take a cancer diagnosis for example. We hate it so much, it feels powerful to put our mind energy toward rejecting it, resisting it. I know, I have been there, but resisting it at that point is futile. Our minds reacting this way creates more stress and tension. We try to wish the cancer away. It is here but we don’t want it to be … the push and pull…the insanity. Resisting what IS never works. Our mind believes that resisting the diagnosis will somehow change it. It doesn’t. This is not helpful and causes a lot of unnecessary suffering.
Our higher self has true wisdom. Higher self knows that the only thing in our power is how we react to the circumstances. Instead of resisting the cancer (that is already here), why not use our energy to heal and find wellness again? We can use our energy to be supportive and loving. Trust your higher self to guide you. Trust yourself to be able to handle obstacles as they appear.
The key to getting some relief from anxiety and stress is knowing what you can control and what you can’t control. Try to focus on what you can control instead of cursing at, fighting against, and resisting what is. Notice that you do have control of your reaction. Do you want to bring the love or the fear? Do you want to bring the compassion or the anger? The choice is yours. That you can control.